I Don't See Any Cracks

So the my most recent (like there's so many that I have to clarify) ex's friend has been e-mailing me lately. He keeps telling me his friend and I were so cute together and that he hoped we lasted. I kept saying stuff like, "We're over." "We keep in touch, but I just don't see it working out." I've tried it all, you know? I haven't been completely honest and told him that the main reason I broke up and refuse to re-date his friend is because the guy's nineteen, has no job, lives with his mother, and doesn't go to school. Does that sound bitchy? Let me explain, shall I? So living with your parents is no big deal, plenty of college students do it, but he has not made one comment on getting a job, or at least not a serious one. You can't live with your parents forever, and if he doesn't want to go to college fine, but there's no future with the guy. Get it?
He thinks about now and only now, he's not thinking about what he's going to do later on. I'm mostly about the here and now, but I'm about the future too. I have ambitions, goals, dreams, etc. I want to know that he does too.
I didn't tell his friend this, what I told his friend was that I was going to college and I was working, and I didn't see how it could possibly turn out any good if we continued it when it was more than likely going to blow up in our faces. He laughed and was like, "Live in the here and now." I replied, "I do, but I like to look at the big picture too sometimes." "Well sometimes the big picture breaks." I get what he's saying, but I'm not willing to give up the possibilities I stand to lose dating his friend again if his friend isn't willing to do something with his life. So I told him, "Yeah well, I don't see any cracks." And hopefully, that's the end of that.